A Neurodivergent New Year: What We’re Leaving Behind (and Taking Forward)

At our recent ND BrainSpace – Neurodivergent New Year, we asked two simple but powerful questions:

  • What do you want to leave behind?

  • What do you want to take forward?

Here’s a reflection on what emerged.

🌫️ What we’re ready to leave behind

A strong theme across the group was overload — not in a dramatic sense, but the quiet, cumulative kind that builds when we keep pushing past our limits.

People spoke about wanting to leave behind:

  • Saying yes to too much

  • Overextending time and energy

  • Moving too fast

  • Not factoring in rest and recovery

  • Constantly changing plans because capacity ran out

This wasn’t about “doing better” — it was about recognising burnout before it takes over.

There was also a lot of honesty around self-criticism and people pleasing:

  • Harsh inner voices

  • Over-worrying about things we can’t control

  • Fear of judgement — from others and ourselves

  • Accepting less than we deserve

Alongside this came practical stresses:

  • Debt and spending on things that don’t actually help

  • Unhealthy coping strategies (including alcohol)

  • Giving energy to people or situations that drain rather than nourish

And that familiar neurodivergent stuckness:

  • Weeks where nothing really seemed to happen

  • Too much “umming” and not enough doing

  • Appointments, delays, and life admin hanging over everything

Not failure — fatigue.

🌱 What we want to take forward

What stood out most here was gentleness paired with intention.

People want to take forward:

  • Clearer boundaries

  • More realistic expectations (especially around time)

  • Creating space rather than filling it

  • Not relying on other people’s promises for stability

There was also a strong thread of self-understanding, particularly post-diagnosis:

  • Learning more about ourselves

  • Making healthier choices with our neurodivergence, not against it

  • Being more compassionate about how we function

Care looked very practical and very human:

  • Exercise as routine, not punishment

  • Music (including a lot of love for 80s playlists)

  • Audiobooks

  • LED candles

  • Meditation alongside movement

  • Food choices that support energy rather than perfection

And importantly — joy:

  • Creativity and crafts (little and often)

  • Travel and new experiences

  • Decorating and making homes feel good

  • Music, friendships, and sharing achievements

  • Starting new ventures

  • Trying things without endlessly putting them off

People don’t want to shrink their lives — they want to grow them sustainably.

🧠 Gentle action, not pressure

We talked about the five-minute rule — trying something for just five minutes when motivation feels low. Not as a productivity trick, but as a way to lower the barrier to starting.

Music came up as a powerful motivator too, especially music linked to childhood — helping access energy, familiarity, and emotional regulation when things feel flat.

There was also space to talk about worry:

  • Worrying about things we can’t control

  • Worrying about being judged

  • The overlap between external judgement and internal self-criticism

And how boundaries — with others and ourselves — can soften that.

🌟 The bigger picture

Zooming out, this wasn’t about “doing more”.

It was about:

  • Moving from overdrive to regulation

  • From self-judgement to self-trust

  • From coping to choosing

  • From pushing harder to listening better

This is what a neurodivergent New Year can look like — not a reinvention, but a rebalancing.

Small steps. Realistic rhythms. More kindness.
And permission to build a life that actually fits.

If you’d like support exploring this for yourself — through therapy, coaching, or creative reflection — you’re very welcome here.

You are not a problem to fix … it’s ok to choose your way.

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